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Claudia's avatar

That's such a great way to shift your own perspective. It deeply resonates with me, since I am on the same journey as you are. My mentees also love to do guided future meditations to get more in touch with their selfs who they want to be at heart.

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Martina May's avatar

Guided Future Meditations are really impactful, but only if you (or the other person) is open for it. I've tried it with people who had concerns from the beginning and they didn't allow themselves to be transported into the scenario. It just shows that not every exercise works for everyone.

And I am glad it resonates with you. I wish you all the best on your journey :)

Thank you for your comment!

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Lindsay Southwick's avatar

I grew up with the mindset that my value was directly connected to how much I was doing. There was no time for rest. Rest meant lazy. This is something I've battled as an adult as well. Thank you for articulating it so well!

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Martina May's avatar

Thanks for your comment!

It's so hard to get out of that mind space. We have to remind ourselves that we are enough and we've done enough. I am glad that my article was able to do that for you.

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Cristiano Colla's avatar

We are all allowed to slow down. Human being not human doing

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Martina May's avatar

Human Doing... that is so true. It's easy to forget. Even more important to remember over and over again.

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100% HUMAN's avatar

A great moment of reflection - thank you! It occurs to me that things in my life that I'm most proud of are not the external achievements I've had, but the tough experiences I have got through! That means far more to me - these days - than the external validation I have sought.

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Martina May's avatar

That's an important lesson to learn. I think it is normal to crave some form of validation. Over time we do learn what is truly important to us. Great to hear that you are able to cherish the experiences you went through. Inspiring, really!

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Joseph A. Carosella's avatar

Good for you, MM. I found that "The World Beyond Your Head," by Michael Crawford, explores this productivity dilemma very well. I still have trouble with it - I usually feel like I've "earned my dinner" if I've written or exercised.

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